Don’t Judge A Book By Its Cover…..

As I walked today, two men were passing by using profanity. I stopped and said to them, “There’s a lady in your presence.” One kept walking; the other humorously said, “I don’t see a lady,” squinting his eyes; “I’m blind. I’m blind. I can’t see,” turning his head from side to side, smiling, jesting. I repeated, “There’s a lady in your presence,” I smiled with him. He said, “Oh, excuse me Ma’m..” We chatted. He said, “You know the older women respect the Black men more than the young women and I can’t get no respect from them. They treat...

What!?! Are you still mad about that??!!

I’m convinced. Cold, frozen anger can make you physically sick. The physical sickness can become a manifestation and personification of inward anger. And, you become unhappy. It’s that same old tape recording in your head playing something that happened months and years ago. You’re the only one suffering. The other person has gone on about their business. You’re left behind… angry…unhappy and possibly sick, too. You start to do something… it pops into your head talking to you, “Remember when he said that the water wasn’t boiled hot enough?” or some insignificant something. Some people just like to complain. It...

Just Do It!

We hear this aphorism frequently, “Just Do It!” directing us to propel ourselves away from procrastination, [a component of laziness]; putting o ‘til tomorrow what you can do today. If you’re looking back, you can’t see forward and may not get anything done at all. Our society is high tech; no time to put off. Push yourself forward! Be accountable. We have to “be on it!” People say, “Well…I’ll do it tomorrow.” Act now! “Just Do It!” No excuses. Whatever the situation or circumstance we ad ourselves in, we’re better o taking care of the business “Now,” no procrastinating. Successful...

Aspire to Inspire!

Inspire yourself! “BE” your own Best Friend!” You have support all the time. He said, “I will be what I want to be.” In other words, “He will be what you need Him to be.” Your needs are met! Who or what is your most threatening enemy many of the times? Our own thoughts may be what is hindering us from achieving our goals. Let’s set a watch over our thoughts and words. Please, never speak out against yourself or your children! The effects are unimaginably long lasting. Thoughts become alive when spoken. If we discipline our thoughts, our thinking...

Your Mind – Your Choice

Don’t underestimate yourself. You’re more powerful than you think! You can do it! You make choices daily. Some effect your whole life. Be encouraged! Move forward! You may not be able to change the past, but you can improve. Consider circumstances and possible results [before] the decision. The same temptation may come clothed differently. Opportunities are available. Children learn to make choices. Parents teach them what is okay and what is not okay. You choose to get up in the morning, get dressed get started. You choose to be prompt. You choose decisions, good and not so good. On the...

Spanking ???? Huuumm……

“Spanking???” Is somebody going to call the police on me? Will my own child call the police? (I hope not!). Here’s the thing. Children need consistency; what to do and what not to do. Stick to your rules. Wishy-Washy is a no-no and your results will be undesirable. Children are very smart, perceiving how to undo what you have been working so hard to do. As parents, you’re the first teacher. You’re great! You’re doing a good job! Pat yourself on the back!” You can speak to some children and gain cooperation. Others need stronger direction. You have to do...

Daddy Come Back!

Many of us grew up without full time or part time fathers or no father at all or knowledge of our fathers. Many factors contribute to “father absence.” What is “father absence.” It could mean physical or emotional absence. Children generally children know something important is missing. Could be, father absence is never discussed. The subject is avoided. But, children know; because they feel it in their hearts and some of them are broken hearted. They basically have no ultimate control over this. When I was a little girl, I wondered why my father was not around every day. I...

SMILE! Success Is On “The Way”

Smiles diffuse tension. Smiling makes you feel better, physically and mentally. Smiles empower you. A smile demonstrates attitude, a good attitude. Smiles make you more approachable. When you talk over the telephone, keep a smile in your heart. The other person will see your smile through your pleasant voice tone. Do you feel discouraged sometimes? Smile! It throws off your negative thought processes. Think on the good things and use smiles to do it. Those negative thoughts don’t know what to do but leave you. A smile influences your outlook and perspective on life. A smile gives you direction and...

Resolving Conflict In Our Lives

When we look all around there is conflict everywhere we go. There’s conflict on the highways, in the streets, in the grocery store, at the service station, in the home, in the church, at the once, nationally, locally, internationally, and in campaigns. There’s almost nowhere you can go where there is no conflict. The American Heritage College dictionary defines conflict in this way, “a state of disharmony” between parties who may be incompatible or who may be able to come to a compatible state. A resolution is setting your mind by making a decision to come to an agreement and...